notes<p>> Wisdom of the Masters: Bankei Yōtaku ~ 𝐓𝐡𝐞 𝐔𝐧𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐧 ~ Zen Buddhism</p><p>Episode webpage: <a href="https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/jayasara0/episodes/Bankei-Ytaku-----Zen-Buddhism-e25o4hg" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">podcasters.spotify.com/pod/sho</span><span class="invisible">w/jayasara0/episodes/Bankei-Ytaku-----Zen-Buddhism-e25o4hg</span></a></p><p>Media file: <a href="https://anchor.fm/s/49a54198/podcast/play/72142832/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2023-5-14%2F2bc76879-b5f0-de2f-ae07-7aa1327a6511.mp3" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">anchor.fm/s/49a54198/podcast/p</span><span class="invisible">lay/72142832/https%3A%2F%2Fd3ctxlq1ktw2nl.cloudfront.net%2Fstaging%2F2023-5-14%2F2bc76879-b5f0-de2f-ae07-7aa1327a6511.mp3</span></a><br><a href="https://social.coop/tags/Bankei" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Bankei</span></a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/%F0%9D%90%93%F0%9D%90%A1%F0%9D%90%9E%F0%9D%90%94%F0%9D%90%A7%F0%9D%90%9B%F0%9D%90%A8%F0%9D%90%AB%F0%9D%90%A7" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>𝐓𝐡𝐞𝐔𝐧𝐛𝐨𝐫𝐧</span></a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/Zen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Zen</span></a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/Buddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Buddhism</span></a> <a href="https://social.coop/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a></p>
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🌻 Farah :neuro: :v_bi:<p>I like a good koan but I don’t think I can be a samurai; I neither have the stature or sword to pull it off <a href="https://beige.party/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>When practiced <a href="https://body.social/tags/mindfully" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mindfully</span></a>, <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naturism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naturism</span></a> becomes a <a href="https://body.social/tags/meditative" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>meditative</span></a> experience. Walking <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naked</span></a> in <a href="https://body.social/tags/natural" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>natural</span></a> settings, engaging in <a href="https://body.social/tags/NakedHiking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NakedHiking</span></a>, or simply being unclothed outdoors encourages present-moment <a href="https://body.social/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a>. This <a href="https://body.social/tags/mindfulness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mindfulness</span></a> aspect aligns with practices like <a href="https://body.social/tags/meditation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>meditation</span></a> & <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a>, which promote <a href="https://body.social/tags/mental" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mental</span></a> clarity & reduce rumination. By grounding oneself in the simplicity of <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a>, <a href="https://body.social/tags/naturists" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>naturists</span></a> can experience a sense of peace & detachment from daily stressors. (9/37)</p>
donthatedontkill<p>Remember when I said I made a mala and the tassel fell apart right at the end of making it? (<a href="https://mastodon.social/@donthatedontkill/114133543438035681" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" translate="no" target="_blank"><span class="invisible">https://</span><span class="ellipsis">mastodon.social/@donthatedontk</span><span class="invisible">ill/114133543438035681</span></a>) Well, I decide to make a new one! It's not as nice as the one that my friend gave me but it'll do the trick. 😄 And I have the satisfaction of making it myself and the very important knowledge gained on how tassels are made! 🤣<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/mala" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mala</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/buddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>buddhism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/zen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>zen</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/zenbuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>zenbuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/diy" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>diy</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/repair" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>repair</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/crafts" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>crafts</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/crafting" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>crafting</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>The Heart Sūtra is the most chanted sūtra in <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> to remind practitioners to let go of rigid thinking & realise the fluid, <a href="https://body.social/tags/interconnected" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>interconnected</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nature</span></a> of <a href="https://body.social/tags/existence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>existence</span></a>.</p><p>禅仏教（禅仏教）では、修行者が固執した考えを手放し、存在の流動的で相互に関連する本質を理解するために、般若心経を唱えることがよくあります。 (5/5)</p>
donthatedontkill<p>Today I finished a mala using bodhi seeds a friend gave me when he came back from China. I've had it for at least six months would do a little and then stop and today I said "I'm going to finish!" And what did I notice right as I was tying the last knot? The tassel had fallen apart! I tried to no avail to put it back together and back on. Anyway, it's finished now, tassel or not, and I'm sure there's a lesson in there somewhere<br><a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/buddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>buddhism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/zen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>zen</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/zenbuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>zenbuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/sunday" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>sunday</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/lessons" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>lessons</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/life" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>life</span></a> <a href="https://mastodon.social/tags/thinking" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>thinking</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>Though <a href="https://body.social/tags/impermanent" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>impermanent</span></a>, the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is not dismissed. It is through the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> that one practices, meditates, & realises <a href="https://body.social/tags/wisdom" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>wisdom</span></a>. The <a href="https://body.social/tags/Buddha" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Buddha</span></a> walked, sat, breathed, & spoke — using his <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> as a tool for teaching & practice. <a href="https://body.social/tags/Mindfulness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mindfulness</span></a> of the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is a crucial foundation to realisation. </p><p>In <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> direct <a href="https://body.social/tags/experience" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>experience</span></a> of the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is emphasised through the practice of <a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShinzenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShinzenyoku</span></a> - being <a href="https://body.social/tags/naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>naked</span></a> in <a href="https://body.social/tags/nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nature</span></a>.</p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/Naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naked</span></a> in <a href="https://body.social/tags/nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nature</span></a> - <a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShizenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShizenyoku</span></a>. </p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/Nude" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nude</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/NoClothes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NoClothes</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ClothesFree" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ClothesFree</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Liberation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Liberation</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/OneWithNature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>OneWithNature</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Impermanence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Impermanence</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naturism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naturism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> emphasises direct <a href="https://body.social/tags/experience" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>experience</span></a> over scriptures or rituals. It teaches that <a href="https://body.social/tags/enlightenment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>enlightenment</span></a> is realised through <a href="https://body.social/tags/meditation" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>meditation</span></a> in everyday actions. A famous saying is, “If you meet the <a href="https://body.social/tags/Buddha" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Buddha</span></a>, kill him,” meaning not to cling to concepts. <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a> rejects hierarchy, viewing <a href="https://body.social/tags/Buddhist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Buddhist</span></a> robes & ranks as hindrances. <a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShinzenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShinzenyoku</span></a> is practised as a path to <a href="https://body.social/tags/enlightenment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>enlightenment</span></a> through direct connection with <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a>.</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/%E7%A6%85%E4%BB%8F%E6%95%99" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>禅仏教</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E7%84%A1%E5%A2%83%E6%B3%95" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>無境法</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E8%A3%B8%E8%87%AA%E7%84%B6%E6%B5%B4" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>裸自然浴</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/OneWithNature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>OneWithNature</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Reality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Reality</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Insight" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Insight</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShizenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShizenyoku</span></a> entails <a href="https://body.social/tags/meditating" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>meditating</span></a>, breathing, meditative walking, & existing in <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a> without clothes. It demands full acceptance of one’s <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a>, fostering <a href="https://body.social/tags/BodyPositivity" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BodyPositivity</span></a> & overcoming duality. <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nakedness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nakedness</span></a> symbolises <a href="https://body.social/tags/muga" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>muga</span></a> – ‘No Ego’ – stripping away the illusion of separation. Through direct experience of the elements – wind, sun, rain, – practitioners embrace suffering & realise <a href="https://body.social/tags/impermanence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>impermanence</span></a>.</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/%E8%A3%B8%E8%87%AA%E7%84%B6%E6%B5%B4" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>裸自然浴</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E4%BA%8C%E5%85%83%E8%AB%96" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>二元論</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E7%84%A1%E6%88%91" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>無我</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E8%8B%A6" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>苦</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E7%84%A1%E5%B8%B8" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>無常</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/BuddhistPractice" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>BuddhistPractice</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naked</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nude" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nude</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/NoClothes" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>NoClothes</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ClothesFree" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ClothesFree</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>When walking through <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a> during <a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShizenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShizenyoku</span></a>, the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is not separate from the wind moving through the trees, the warmth of the sun, or the earth beneath the feet. The distinction between ‘body’ & ‘environment’ is revealed as an illusion created by the mind. </p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naturism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naturism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nude" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nude</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naked</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/Enlightenment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Enlightenment</span></a> is <a href="https://body.social/tags/awakening" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>awakening</span></a> to non-duality, seeing through the illusions of separation. It is realising that all distinctions — ‘self’ & other, birth & death, past & future — are empty constructs of the discriminating <a href="https://body.social/tags/mind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mind</span></a>. <a href="https://body.social/tags/Impermanence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Impermanence</span></a> flows through all, revealing the oneness of all beings with <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a>. To <a href="https://body.social/tags/awaken" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>awaken</span></a> is to live without barriers, moving in <a href="https://body.social/tags/harmony" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>harmony</span></a> with the ever-changing present. <a href="https://body.social/tags/True" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>True</span></a> seeing is boundless, <a href="https://body.social/tags/free" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>free</span></a> from attachment, resting in the unity of all things.</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>I do not see “coloured” people or “white” people — only people. To divide by colour is to follow the discriminating <a href="https://body.social/tags/mind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mind</span></a>, creating false distinctions where none exist. In <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a>, all barriers are illusions, & true seeing goes beyond duality. People are simply people, without division or separation. The <a href="https://body.social/tags/mind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mind</span></a> that categorises creates suffering, but the <a href="https://body.social/tags/mind" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>mind</span></a> that sees without distinction is <a href="https://body.social/tags/free" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>free</span></a>. To recognise all as one is to live without boundaries.</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/%E7%84%A1%E5%A2%83%E6%B3%95" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>無境法</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nonduality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nonduality</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/AllAreOne" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>AllAreOne</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a></p>
yourautisticlife<p><strong>A Senseless Breakup As a Zen Koan</strong></p><p>She put me in an impossible situation, and gave me the gift of a koan.</p>Photo by <a href="https://unsplash.com/@s12i?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Takeshi Yu</a> on <a href="https://unsplash.com/photos/a-tori-tori-floating-in-the-middle-of-a-body-of-water-2gGPUM_z1XA?utm_content=creditCopyText&utm_medium=referral&utm_source=unsplash" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Unsplash</a><p>I’m still reeling from the worst breakup of my life. Well, the worst breakup so far. There’s no telling if something even worse will come some day. It’s been almost two years, but last night a song came up and I cried anew. Sometimes, it is like it happened yesterday.</p><p>I don’t go into relationships reservedly. This is true with everyone. My current boyfriend. My ex-wife. And the girl who is the topic of this piece. So, without reservations, I gave her everything I could give her. Most of all, I gave her my ability to listen, and my patience. How were my ability to listen and my patience useful?</p><p>She engaged in self-harm. The scars were plainly visible during our first date. She answered truthfully when I asked about them.</p><p>She abused substances. She was truthful about this, too.</p><p>She did not follow her medication regimen. She told me so, truthfully.</p><p>She flat out told me, months before our breakup, that she did not see a future for us. This was her truth.</p><p>I listened patiently to all of this, without flying off the handle. I don’t know what anger would have given me, beyond an immediate and short-lived feeling of satisfaction. If anything, it would most likely have ruined our relationship sooner. It actually almost did. One day, we had an argument in which she denied the existence of racism. I could not tolerate this, and so I flew off the handle. </p><p>She saw me as her abusive mother, and I triggered her cPTSD. I did not physically harm her – I would never have done this – but my yelling was enough. She ran out of my apartment to cool down. I was so horrified at my reaction that I decided to break up with her. She came back saying that if we worked on our relationship, we could make things work. I accepted her offer and we came back together. </p><p>Her denial of racism punched me in the gut. I’m the type of enby who will readily cry if he sees black parents on the news talk about the senseless assassination of their child by cops. I live in a majority black neighborhood. Heck, my boyfriend is black. Denying obvious racism is an excellent way to get me to explode. I’m not proud of this, but it was the truth (and maybe still is the truth). This is the only time I displayed anger with her. </p><p>The life I had lived with my ex-wife prior to our divorce was extremely peaceful… and I daresay now too peaceful for growth. The partners I’ve had after my divorce have taught me so much. I <em>am </em>already enlightened. Anger is not generally a useful emotion. Anger is a choice that I am making. Etc. If the girl I’m talking about denied racism today, I’d hope that I wouldn’t fly off the handle. Still, I’m not sure that even today, I’d be able to handle it peacefully. It is such a gut punch.</p><p><em>Your Autistic Life is supported by readers like you. Use one of the links below to support my writing! Thank you.</em></p> <a class="" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/membership-join/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Join Us</a> <a class="" href="https://www.bonfire.com/store/your-autistic-life/" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">Bonfire Merch</a> <p>Okay. So, I said that she gave me the gift of a koan. What is a koan? It is a device that Zen practitioners use. Some koans are textual. Here is an example of a textual koan:</p><blockquote><p>What is the sound of one hand clapping?</p></blockquote><p>In order to answer the question, a Zen student encountering this koan will typically try to think their way through it, and will fail miserably. It is possible to answer this koan, but not through discursive stratagems. There are many such textual koans in the Zen tradition. There is, however, another type of koan. I don’t think I’m being original here, but I’m going to call this a life koan. It is a situation that grips you deeply in your gut. It is unsatisfactory, and maybe unresolvable.</p><p>When this girl broke up with me, she did put me into an impossible situation. When our relationship was firing on all cylinders, it was pure <em>magic</em>. I had adored her, and given her everything I could give, and yet… this was not enough.</p><p>Why?</p><p>Oh, I can list dozens of reasons, but these reasons are all bullshit. She did give me reasons, but a few weeks after our breakup she revealed to me, from her own mouth, that her reasons were lies. How far had we fallen from her initial truthfulness?</p><p>Thus, it is, that almost two years after our breakup. I wrestle with this koan: why did she leave me? I don’t think this question has a satisfactory answer. This koan is a parting gift that she gave me, inadvertently. Still, it is a gift, and one that I will most likely animate my Zen practice to my death.</p><p><a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/anger/" target="_blank">#anger</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/autisticwriters/" target="_blank">#AutisticWriters</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/breakups/" target="_blank">#breakups</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/koan/" target="_blank">#koan</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/listening/" target="_blank">#listening</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/love/" target="_blank">#love</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/patience/" target="_blank">#patience</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/relationships/" target="_blank">#relationships</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/yourautisticlife/" target="_blank">#YourAutisticLife</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/zen/" target="_blank">#Zen</a> <a rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" class="hashtag u-tag u-category" href="https://www.yourautisticlife.com/tag/zenbuddhism/" target="_blank">#ZenBuddhism</a></p>
SydneyJim<p>“You should stop chasing after the idea of a self. When you let go of the idea of a self, everything is actualised.” (<a href="https://body.social/tags/D%C5%8Dgen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Dōgen</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E9%81%93%E5%85%83" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>道元</span></a>, 1200–1253 <a href="https://body.social/tags/Sh%C5%8Db%C5%8Dgenz%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Shōbōgenzō</span></a>, <a href="https://body.social/tags/%E6%AD%A3%E6%B3%95%E7%9C%BC%E8%94%B5" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>正法眼蔵</span></a>)</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Reality" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Reality</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/Zen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Zen</span></a> doesn’t reject the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> but encourages seeing through its illusion. Meditative practices like <a href="https://body.social/tags/zazen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>zazen</span></a> & <a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShizenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShizenyoku</span></a> help cultivate <a href="https://body.social/tags/awareness" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>awareness</span></a> of bodily sensations without attachment. For practitioners of <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is a tool for <a href="https://body.social/tags/enlightenment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>enlightenment</span></a>. (3/4)</p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> draws this idea from early <a href="https://body.social/tags/Buddhist" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Buddhist</span></a> teachings, where the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is often described as a temporary collection of elements — flesh, bones, blood, & organs — that inevitably decay. <a href="https://body.social/tags/Ikky%C5%AB" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Ikkyū</span></a>, the iconoclastic <a href="https://body.social/tags/Zen" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Zen</span></a> monk, frequently used crude yet profound imagery to remind practitioners that the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is nothing but skin & bones, destined to return to dust. (2/4)</p>
SydneyJim<p>The <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> is “just a bag of bones.” The concept of the human <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> as “just a bag of bones” is a common theme in <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> emphasising the truth of <a href="https://body.social/tags/impermanence" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>impermanence</span></a>, non-attachment, & the illusory <a href="https://body.social/tags/nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>nature</span></a> of self-identity. This perspective helps us to detach from bodily desires, ego, & the illusion of a fixed self. (1/4)</p>
SydneyJim<p><a href="https://body.social/tags/HadakaShizenyoku" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>HadakaShizenyoku</span></a> is the practice of immersing completely in <a href="https://body.social/tags/Nature" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nature</span></a> without the barrier of clothing, engaging fully with the <a href="https://body.social/tags/environment" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>environment</span></a> through direct <a href="https://body.social/tags/experience" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>experience</span></a>. It is the primary practice of <a href="https://body.social/tags/Muky%C5%8Dh%C5%8D" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Mukyōhō</span></a> a school of <a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> that embodies the principle that boundaries — whether physical or mental — are hindrances & illusions. By removing clothing, there is no separation between the <a href="https://body.social/tags/body" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>body</span></a> & the <a href="https://body.social/tags/natural" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>natural</span></a> world, allowing for a pure, unfiltered connection with the elements. </p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/Nude" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Nude</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Naked" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Naked</span></a></p>
SydneyJim<p>Suffering & uncertainty arise like waves upon the ocean, yet the ocean is not only waves. Do not be pulled under by despair. Seek joy as one seeks shade on a hot day — not to escape, but to balance. Light & dark, sorrow & happiness, all come & go like the wind through trees. Do not cling to either. Rest in the space where both arise & fade, & you will know peace.</p><p><a href="https://body.social/tags/ZenBuddhism" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>ZenBuddhism</span></a> <a href="https://body.social/tags/Balance" class="mention hashtag" rel="nofollow noopener noreferrer" target="_blank">#<span>Balance</span></a></p>
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